Warriors learn from Warriors
We laid to rest this week one of the greatest Warriors of all time, her name was Patricia G. Spisso. She was not only a brilliant educator and champion for Women’s rights, she was also the greatest mother any family could ever ask for. Warriors learn from warriors, and we learned from the best!
As a modern day performance coach and leadership consultant I often speak about being a warrior, winner, leader and survivor. Four key attributes that define the best of the best and what I challenge everyone to be. These attributes all have sub-attributes, which complete the definitions. Though only four simple words they are very complex. For example, you can’t be a winner if you’re not a gracious winner or a sore loser. Winning is the action but a “winner” is what defines the attribute.
I often ask clients what their definition of a warrior is? What do they believe embodies a warrior and more importantly defining an example of one? A warrior is not only the Spartan jumping off the rock impaling the enemy with his spear. Being a warrior is much more than the physical attributes (though it does have a part); being a warrior is working hard to be the best at what ever you do and doing it with honor, personal courage and character.
My warrior traits and ethos I learned from my mother. She absolutely set the standard and did so with a kind heart, gentle touch, and a brilliant mind that taught my sisters and I toughness, humility and passion.
Toughness is a trait often mistaken for someone with the rough exterior and attitude to match. Being tough has nothing to do with being a prick, nor being cold, callous, mean or aggressive. Toughness is the ability to do the right things, despite the “crowds opinion” or personal consequences. My mother had the look of an Italian movie star and the toughness of a Spartan Queen. She stood for Women’s Rights in the most unpopular times and squared off against some of the most chauvinistic and ego maniac men that Western Pennsylvania had to offer. Her battle armor was her spirit, her mind and the knowing she was making life better for others. As a brilliant educator (41 years), she worked tirelessly to help the children of the rich, middle class and poor receive an education. She showed kids from all walks of life how to succeed, how to move forward and especially how to do it with the humility necessary.
She challenged my two older sisters and I to leave a “footprint” in life. Mom always said if we did it the right way with honor, personal courage and integrity that others would use our path for their own success. She never let herself be bogged down with negativity or negative people, and taught us to do the same. If you wanted my mother’s help, you better show up positive and ready to work; the “oh poor me” attitude was never accepted.
My mother didn’t come from money nor married into it; my father and her raised three successful children on a middle-class budget and inspired all of us to follow our dreams and leave that “footprint.” All of us have that work ethic, and though we might have a few more “things” than our Parents, the values we have learned are the foundation.
My mother accepted another warrior into our family many years ago, my loving wife. Cut from the same mold they quickly formed a bond that was untouchable. Throughout the years she taught my wife and I how to love and understand each other more than we thought was ever possible. My mother and father were married over 53 years; she shared with us her tools to a happy, healthy, blissful marriage. Some say sons marry their mothers and it’s no different in my case; my loving wife has all the attributes my mother possessed, taught, inspired and loved.
Warriors learn from Warriors. Teach, coach, mentor, train, inspire, be passionate and motivate; these are what I do best, but only because I learned from the best!!
Patricia G Spisso, 10/09/2011
Rest in Peace Mother, you will never be forgotten!
Performance Coach & Lead Consultant
Elite Leadership Training LLC