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Random Acts of Kindness

It was early Spring, 1985 and I was a Private in the U.S. Army assigned to the elite 3rd Platoon, Bravo Company, 2nd Battalion, 75th Ranger Regiment in Fort Lewis, Washington. We had a great platoon loaded with talented individuals and even a few that had cut their teeth on the recent Combat Parachute Assault into Grenada (Oct 1983) to rescue American College Students. This mission was known as Operation: “Urgent Fury.” Now today combat operations are plenty, however in the early 1980’s, there wasn’t a lot of combat action post-Vietnam Era. If you participated in Grenada with the Rangers, you were commonly known as a “Grenader Invader” and were viewed as “gods,” especially by Ranger Privates (AKA “tab-less bitches”).

The life as a Ranger is a difficult one, both physically and mentally. Every day is a test; everyday is a new challenge, everyday you have to show why you are one of our military’s finest fighting units. To be a Ranger you have to be as a minimum a three time volunteer. You have to volunteer for
the Army; volunteer for Airborne School; and finally volunteer for the Rangers which has a requirement process of passing RIP, or Ranger Indoctrination Program (this name has since changed to RASP or Ranger Assessment Selection Process. I still love the name RIP!). Just qualifying for the Rangers is only part of the process; once you complete RIP you have to earn your position in a Ranger platoon everyday and when trained enough, you will have the chance to attend Ranger School in hopes of earning the coveted Ranger Tab (which then removes you from the “tab-less bitch” listing!). Ranger School in itself is a daunting task and covers over 8 weeks of patrolling, raids, ambushes, reconnaissance, field craft, survival, graded patrols as well as food and sleep deprivation. It’s still to this day one of the most difficult leadership schools the military has to offer.

The life of a Ranger Private is a tough one. You want to prove everyday that with guidance and the proper training you can be a combat Read the rest of this entry »

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Keeping Your Fingers On The Pulse

Leadership is about giving your subordinates the room to do their job, the ability to think through decisions and understanding there is no such thing as a zero-defect environment. There are clear lines that can’t be crossed and things you cannot do (lie, cheat or steal for example).

We spent a few days with a retired Green Beret Sergeant Major friend of ours and as we were enjoying a few German beverages we were talking leadership. He is a hero and spent the bulk of his 25 year military career in Special Forces. He will be the first to tell you he has learned the hard way, and though he achieved the highest Non-Comissioned Officer rank, his early years were spent achieving and losing the rank of Private First Class. He had good leaders looking out for him and I’ve found him to be one of the finest military leaders of our modern time with a gruff and tough exterior that can frighten the most chiseled warrior! He looked out for Soldiers, counseled them as needed (even wall to wall counseling if it applied), and always backed them regardless if he personally liked them or not. He knew leadership is not a popularity contest and he wanted men that were accountable, capable and audacious. They were Green Berets, they had to be good at everything! Read the rest of this entry »

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You got to know when to leave.

A few days ago I was talking to my Father. He’s 88 years young, a World War II Combat Veteran, and grew up during the Great Depression (the 1929 one, not the housing crash of 2008!) At 88, my Father is still as sharp as they come and still to this day regularly gives talks on leadership. As a Civilian Aide, to the Secretary of the Army (CASA) – Emeritus for the State of Pennsylvania, he is daily doing work to assist the Army units of his state. He is known for his powerful and motivating speeches on Veterans and Memorial Day and frankly, there’s no greater American.

He’s battling with the loss of his wife of 52 years. If you’ve read my previous blog on “Warriors learn from Warriors” you know what she has meant to our family. My Father has always provided sound and timely advice (some I’ve taken and as most children do, some I’ve not and I learned the hard way.) We were talking about general topics and we both love sports so we began to talk about the debacle at Penn State University with their Football program and how it’s going to be difficult to rebuild for the incoming coach. We talked about Coach Paterno and how long he has been at the program and by all estimation has done a good job of assisting the players under his charge with graduating and moving on to life beyond football. My father then said to me, “you got to know when to leave.” It’s my father’s opinion that Coach Paterno was there too long, and when you’re an 88 year old WWII Veteran, you have earned the right to your own opinion!

The lesson started here. He went on to say that regardless of the business you are in “you got to know when to leave.” The more I thought about this the more evident how crucial this advice is!! Looking back at my career I retired from the Army at the right time. I still had 4 or 5 good years left in me, but I was healthy, could still compete if I had to, but I chose the right time to start my next career. Looking back at my time working at West Point, I probably stayed there six months to a year too long. I knew I should have made the change but I was comfortable in the job, had the systems down, and as it’s said, could run on auto-pilot. The turbulence hits when you hand off the stick (Murphy’s Law!). Read the rest of this entry »

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This is an oldie from last year but it’s so important to remember sometimes you just have to…SHUT IT OFF!  Enjoy the upcoming holiday weekend with your families and Shut it Off!

Take a break and shut it off! We are in the information technology age and surrounded by devices and sources to stay in touch, send and receive information, and have the ability to get things done faster.

We use them, we count on them; we can easily become addicted and dependent on them. This blog focuses around your mental health and the necessity of taking the time to SHUT IT OFF!

The gym we go to clearly states “no cell phone use in the workout area.” Though this is posted and even announced over their public address system, you still have plenty of people (including their staff) that make and take calls while out on the gym floor. This does not bother me, except for the fact I know those people aren’t focused on their workout; their mind is filled with other priorities. Questions to ponder: Do they do this when their home? Or at work? Or at their kids hockey game?

It’s called information overload and it can affect your daily life if not controlled. Too much of anything is never a good thing. Keeping it simple; know when to SHUT IT OFF.

I have about a 6-minute drive to our gym and I used to make a quick call to a client or friends on the drive there and checked a few emails in the parking lot before going in. What I found was my mind was not focused as it should be when it was time to get to the work out. I have fixed that issue and either leave my phone at home or shut it off before I leave for the gym. I now use the short drive to relax my mind and when I get to the gym its “business” for the next 45 minutes; I get in, get fit and get out. My mind is refreshed and my body is as well!

I fully understand for most of us our phones are our connection to our business, profit margin and our lives. However, taking the time to “focus” on different objectives during the day make you more productive, healthier and you guessed it, happier all around! Read the rest of this entry »

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Don’t Feel Sorry for Yourself

It’s been a couple weeks since my last blog but we are finally back at the patrol base (military term for your home) after a great trip inspiring and motivating some great people! HOOAH!!

Motivation is infectious, and always in a positive way. If you are motivated and display that motivation and speak with positive energy that will naturally flow into others. The message in this blog is to stay motivated and don’t feel sorry for yourself!

Times are tough, we all know that and feel that. Most of us have to do more with less and watch their spending. So it’s even more important in these economic times that we are thankful for what we have.

If there is an event happening in your life that is testing your mental and/or physical toughness then look at it as a challenge and not as a curse. Remember that toughness is a “learned” trait and you can learn it at any time in your life and you can continue to improve on it! Toughness has nothing to do with being mean, cold, callous, arrogant or insensitive. Toughness is simply viewing all obstacles as a challenge and “chipping away” at those obstacles with a positive attitude and demeanor.

Everything worthwhile in life takes effort and hard work (marriage, family, your profession, etc…). If it was easy then everyone would do it! Stay focused, accept the challenges, and never feel sorry for yourself!

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes. One that was given to me in 2008 when I was half way through my 12 month deployment to Afghanistan. It gave me energy, strength and the necessary resolve to battle-on!

“Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion usually coming from those that have never measured themselves in the face of adversity!” -Coach Tom Renney

You can do it! HOOAH!

Performance Coach & Lead Consultant
Elite Leadership Training LLC

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Cooperate and Graduate

It was week 11 of a 13-week Infantry Basic Course for new privates in the Army at none other than Fort Benning, Georgia. I was the Senior Drill Instructor for one of the platoons in Delta Company, 1st Battalion, 38th INF. Infantry School was commonly known as the “Fort Benning School for Boys.” Unlike most military training posts, Fort Benning had only Infantry training at the time and only trained new male recruits.

Our platoon was a great one; a nice compliment of motivated and seasoned Drill Instructors, as well as a physically fit platoon. Having men from all over the country with as many different upbringings posed some challenges. We were able to mitigate many of these challenges by giving the new Soldiers two common enemies; tough, realistic training and naturally us, the Drill Instructor.

By doing this the men were required by necessity to focus on a common goal, graduating Infantry training and moving on to their Army unit. Unlike a normal basic training, which was 8 weeks at the time, Infantry training combined both the basic and advanced training into a single continuous course which lasted 13 weeks. As the weeks go on the comfortability level increases in both the trainees and the cadre. We were preparing for a week long Field Training Exercise, (FTX) which measured everything they had learned in their training. It was the keystone for completing the course, earning their blue Infantryman’s Cord and moving on to their unit. Tempers were flaring a bit in the barracks and Soldiers were showing their irritation with one another. We could hear the back and forth bantering from our DI office in the barracks and after about five minutes of this I rose up from my desk and told my DI partners “I’m going to end this right now!” As stated before, I was the Senior DI for the platoon and held the rank of Sergeant First Class. My previous assignment in the 75th Ranger Regiment as well as combat experience set me up for success in the Army and I was promoted ahead of my peers in the regular Army. My eight years in the Army had been stellar and exciting up to this point, however my partners had more “Army” experience with 12 to 15 years in service. After my statement my partner, Staff Sergeant Requena stopped me and said, “Boss, I’ll take care of this.” He knew immediately that my statement carried a “pain” consequence for the men, and I would PT (physical training) them into being a team once again. Many times this is a very effective technique, but Drill Instructor Requena, with his vast experience, went for a different approach.

Staff Sergeant Requena was a quiet man, family oriented, and very skilled as an Infantry Mortar man. He rarely was upset and always tried the “fathers” approach to new men. Our leadership styles complimented each other. He walked out to the bay and the men were still bickering like little boys over who was going to get ice cream first. He walked half way down the bay and yelled “At Ease!” Immediately all the men became attentive and the bickering stopped as all eyes turned to DI Requena. He looked at all of them and calmly said “Gentlemen, this is week 11, you have two weeks to go, cooperate and graduate.”

Cooperate and graduate, this was not the first time I’ve ever heard this statement and probably heard it back when I went through Infantry training. It was not necessarily what he said, but his timeliness and delivery. We went back to our office to prepare our gear for the FTX and for the remaining time that evening the men were back into their preparation mode, the “cooperation” mode. This was the first instance as a leader that I truly realized that sometimes the axe or hammer or whatever you want to call it isn’t always the right tool for the job. I kept that “cooperate and graduate” lesson in my leadership arsenal and used it on several occasions throughout the remainder of my 26 year military career.

Fast forward to the week of 30 October, 2011 and we landed in the unexpected Nor’easter in Boston. We were in Springfield, MA on business in a town that received 30 inches of heavy wet snow in less than 24 hours. There was an estimate of 700,000 people without power, and still rebuilding from a violent tornado caused from hurricane Irene just a few months prior. Springfield, like many small cities right now suffer from their own economic hardships. The hotel where we were booked was one of few establishments that had power and facilities, so as you can imagine it became a shelter for residents and their pets and the hotel was doing the best they can under their own stress of limited staff, food and their own intermittent power losses. Anything that was open in town (restaurants, coffee shops, gas stations etc…) had lines hours long. The elevated stress was apparent and this only made the situation worse.

Maybe it’s the military and the prior hardships we had to endure at times that allows both my wife and I to just deal with things a little easier than others. The snow did its damage, fortunately the weather was hanging around 50 degrees, which assisted in the recovery process. Yes there is a 3 hour wait for food, but your going to eat. We were in a hotel booked over capacity and they were doing the best they could under the circumstances.

I actually was able to get a workout in one of the days and rode the elevator with three people who were just bitching about everything going wrong in the hotel. They “couldn’t get fresh towels” or something silly like that and on the slow ride to my floor I felt my anger building, thinking “don’t these people get it? The town is in a state of emergency!” My immediate reaction was going to be “stop your bitching, you have water, hot food and a bed, that’s more than most people have now!” However right then I flashed back to 1992 and Drill Instructor Requena and as the elevator stopped at my floor I calmly and even with a little smile looked at the one doing most of the complaining and said “Ma’am, half the state is out of electricity, I’m sure they are doing the best they can to restore your power. Everyone at the hotel is ok, I think what we should all do now is simply…cooperate and graduate.” I exited the elevator feeling good and thanking Drill Instructor Requena for that valuable lesson.

The “graduate” part fit in this situation as well, with the implied task of just getting along and out of here once your power is reestablished. I got the point across and did it without putting anyone in a choke hold!

Cooperate and graduate; a very effective and calming statement that can be used with your family, employees or whenever the right time is needed to assist calmly in an issue and give people direction and hope.

Hooah! Keep moving forward!

Lead Consultant & Performance Coach
Elite Leadership Training LLC
Twitter @Leadership_Trng

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Warriors learn from Warriors


Warriors learn from Warriors

We laid to rest this week one of the greatest Warriors of all time, her name was Patricia G. Spisso. She was not only a brilliant educator and champion for Women’s rights, she was also the greatest mother any family could ever ask for. Warriors learn from warriors, and we learned from the best!

As a modern day performance coach and leadership consultant I often speak about being a warrior, winner, leader and survivor. Four key attributes that define the best of the best and what I challenge everyone to be. These attributes all have sub-attributes, which complete the definitions. Though only four simple words they are very complex. For example, you can’t be a winner if you’re not a gracious winner or a sore loser. Winning is the action but a “winner” is what defines the attribute.

I often ask clients what their definition of a warrior is? What do they believe embodies a warrior and more importantly defining an example of one? A warrior is not only the Spartan jumping off the rock impaling the enemy with his spear. Being a warrior is much more than the physical attributes (though it does have a part); being a warrior is working hard to be the best at what ever you do and doing it with honor, personal courage and character.

My warrior traits and ethos I learned from my mother. She absolutely set the standard and did so with a kind heart, gentle touch, and a brilliant mind that taught my sisters and I toughness, humility and passion.

Toughness is a trait often mistaken for someone with the rough exterior and attitude to match. Being tough has nothing to do with being a prick, nor being cold, callous, mean or aggressive. Toughness is the ability to do the right things, despite the “crowds opinion” or personal consequences. My mother had the look of an Italian movie star and the toughness of a Spartan Queen. She stood for Women’s Rights in the most unpopular times and squared off against some of the most chauvinistic and ego maniac men that Western Pennsylvania had to offer. Her battle armor was her spirit, her mind and the knowing she was making life better for others. As a brilliant educator (41 years), she worked tirelessly to help the children of the rich, middle class and poor receive an education. She showed kids from all walks of life how to succeed, how to move forward and especially how to do it with the humility necessary.

She challenged my two older sisters and I to leave a “footprint” in life. Mom always said if we did it the right way with honor, personal courage and integrity that others would use our path for their own success. She never let herself be bogged down with negativity or negative people, and taught us to do the same. If you wanted my mother’s help, you better show up positive and ready to work; the “oh poor me” attitude was never accepted.

My mother didn’t come from money nor married into it; my father and her raised three successful children on a middle-class budget and inspired all of us to follow our dreams and leave that “footprint.” All of us have that work ethic, and though we might have a few more “things” than our Parents, the values we have learned are the foundation.

My mother accepted another warrior into our family many years ago, my loving wife. Cut from the same mold they quickly formed a bond that was untouchable. Throughout the years she taught my wife and I how to love and understand each other more than we thought was ever possible. My mother and father were married over 53 years; she shared with us her tools to a happy, healthy, blissful marriage. Some say sons marry their mothers and it’s no different in my case; my loving wife has all the attributes my mother possessed, taught, inspired and loved.

Warriors learn from Warriors. Teach, coach, mentor, train, inspire, be passionate and motivate; these are what I do best, but only because I learned from the best!!

Patricia G Spisso, 10/09/2011
Rest in Peace Mother, you will never be forgotten!

JB Spisso
Performance Coach & Lead Consultant
Elite Leadership Training LLC

Twitter: @Leadership_Trng

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The God Squad

In the military the term “God Squad” is sometimes used to represent an elite group or a group of leaders formed into one fighting element. This would be a very experienced force, those capable of nearly any mission; a veteran group with unlimited capabilities.

This weekend the Minnesota Wild Hockey Club took part in one of our outdoor team building exercises; this mission was codenamed Operation: “Urgent Fury” (this was the name of the US Forces operation onto the island of Grenada to rescue college students in 1983.)

The Wild had four assault squads for their exercise; three of the squads were complied of the players, while the fourth squad or “God Squad” was comprised entirely of the coaches and staff.

The coaches and staff are all fit individuals, but the daily physicality of being an athlete in the National Hockey League is not their main assignment. They are there to plan, prepare, coach, train, mentor, provide treatment and lead these men. Believe me, I’ve spent many weeks with them in the past; the staff works extremely hard, as well as shouldering most of the burden of the organization.

The God Squad did a fantastic job! In four simulated combat & technical missions they scored a first place in one event and no lower than third place in the remaining events.

The God Squad shared blood and sweat with the men under their charge and their actions in this operation sent clear messages to the team. First and foremost it shows the men that their leaders are prepared to battle with them side by side in the mud and more importantly they are willing to “embrace the suck” that they are going through. The leadership isn’t just telling their men to go and fight, rather they are doing it together in the “one team – one fight” concept.

Secondly is shows the men that the warrior-instinct and spirit is alive and well in the leadership, and despite that role the leaders are mentally and physically ready to pick up the sword and defend the arena if called upon.

Not only did the Minnesota Wild players receive a great assessment on their performance from our cadre; the God Squad received equally high marks as well! Hooah!

The lesson here is that all leaders, regardless of rank, position or authority, need to occasionally get out there and “embrace the suck.” Feel what the people under your charge feel, serve with them side by side. You will be surprised what you will learn and it provides the leader their own “compass check.”

I salute the Wild staff for getting out there and doing this mission; they set the tone for their organization as Warriors, Winners, Leaders & Survivors!

Have a great week! Keep moving forward and thanks for reading my blog!


JB Spisso
Performance Coach & Lead Consultant
Elite Leadership Training LLC


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Don’t sweat the small stuff

With the way our fast past, always moving society is today we often make mountains out of mole hills. There’s a line at our local coffee shop, or there is no parking in the vicinity of the store we want to shop. All goes to hell in a hand basket, life is just too hard!!!

Seriously, don’t sweat the small stuff!

I’m an expert planner, especially when it comes to our leadership classes and team building exercises. As mission hit times approach, my attention to detail increases and also does my intensity level. I want everything to go as planned, on time, and to perfection. The bottom line, no mission ever goes perfectly as planned but as long as you can adapt, improvise and use your contingency plans you will will be in great shape.

I say this because I have to remind myself at times to not sweat the small stuff. Don’t confuse this with a lack of planning or preparation (no excuse for that), but an unwanted grey hair should not throw a grenade into your days events.

There are enough stressors in today’s life to fill your life glass full and then some. Don’t add to it by adding unwanted stress that frankly have nothing to do with life, limb or eyesight. I had a layover in Philadelphia airport a couple weeks ago and my flight to NY was cancelled. Passengers hit the roof! Yelling and screaming and though the airline agents were rather “unhelpful,” there’s no use in getting nuts. There are dozens of flights a day from Philly to NY, you’re going to get rebooked on another flight, and the worst that happens is you spend most of your day in the airport (which happened to me!).

I actually was starting to get a little irritated about hour 6 in the airport, until I sat back and thought of all our Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen, Marines & Coast Guardsmen who are standing on a post somewhere, eating cold chow, thousands of miles away from their families. I immediately said to myself “suck it up Sergeant Major & stop whining.” I’ll see my family soon enough, there is plenty of hot chow, and though the airport latrines might lack the “G.I. clean” standards, there are plenty of porcelain toilets to choose from!

Just put life into perspective.

I stopped at our favorite coffee shop today and the line was eight people deep, I just smiled and said to myself, don’t sweat the small stuff!

Keep moving forward! Hooah! JB

Performance Coach & Lead Consultant
Elite Leadership Training LLC

Twitter: Leadership_Trng


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Trust your Instincts: When to change a professional service

It’s often said “we only know what we know.” A military commander cannot make a sound and timely decision on a battle plan if the reconnaissance element doesn’t get the necessary information to the commander. The same for the business/corporate field. Bottom line, we put trust in the professionals that do the job or provide a service.

We all know or have known a local automotive mechanic that we could take our vehicle to for service. It would be fixed in a timely manner, and we would not be sticker shocked on the bill. I’m not a mechanic (though I did rebuild a motor in a ’73 Ford Truck from a Chilton’s manual!), so when I take our vehicles in for service we “trust” the professionals providing the service will do a sound and timely job and they will do so with a professional “responsibility” as if they are working on their own car. Much like the commander expecting the Recon Sergeant to provide him or her with an accurate assessment on the enemy situation.

Now we all know that quality service only goes as far as the level of quality we expect, the trust we have, what we are willing to pay or how far to we want to be ripped off. We’ve all had bad service at restaurants, barbers, retail stores, etc… We have to gauge the price versus the service or what we want to deal with.

When we are hired for leadership training, team building or character development, our goal is to provide a “First Class” service and also give the client “bang for their buck.” That’s our motivation, our foundation, our ethics. If we cannot do something or if there is something that is better suited for another company, we are upfront and honest with our clients. We would rather provide the best service to a few, then a sub-standard effort to many.

This motto is unfortunately not the standard across the professional community. With the economy the way it is, businesses want to take on as much as they can, and if they limp to the finish line with a sub-standard performance, their satisfied because they were paid.

This is much more than a lesson in ethics, it’s about doing the right thing by each client regardless of the circumstance if you accept a job. For us it doesn’t matter if you are a professional sports team, major soft drink or pharmaceutical company, or the family owned pool company with six employees. You will receive 110% effort each and every day.

Now this blog isn’t about pumping up Elite Leadership Training, rather this blog is about when is it time to change professional services?

Some say to give a professional service one chance, if you’re not satisfied, move on. But what about the instances where you receive great service initially, and the service over time worsens?

I get my hair cut a lot, probably three times a month (old Army Ranger habit, high & tight every 7 days!), so if I receive a bad haircut the first time I change Barbers, but I also know I’ll have a chance of a better haircut in 10 days!!!

But let’s talk about key professional services like a doctor or lawyer, positions that require both stellar education & ethics. I’m an educated man but I’m neither a doctor or lawyer. My days of being a Ranger EMT & Army Sergeant Major did not prepare me for either position. So if a doctor or attorney tells me something, I take it as fact. They went to medical school or law school; this is their profession.

Granted the Internet has helped in finding out pieces of information, but much of the Internet is not fact. You have to decide when the information you’ve received is “what you want to hear” and the professionals no longer have your best interests in hand. Easier said then done in many instances.

Everyone has attributes they do well and don’t do well; if you do everything well your lying or your ego makes you a narcissist. I’m a terrific motivator who leads with passion & wears his heart on his sleeve. I’m also a very trusting person and I take people a their face value. Do what you say your going to do and be upfront and honest. That’s what I expect and how I live my life; unfortunately that’s not a standard 100% across the board.

My answer for when is it time to change professional services is simply “trust your instincts” and “don’t ignore those instincts.” My “instincts” told me years ago to make a change in a professional service (as well as my wife’s instincts); but when aggravated I would be told what I wanted to hear from that service, receive the necessary reassurances, and oh by the way there is new bill in the mail!

I’m an overly trusting person (my attribute that needs work) because it’s what I give so what I expect. I ignored my instincts, the advice from my wife, and I’ve overpaid for a service that lacked the quality and professionalism necessary to complete the mission. Shame on me, but I’ve learned and moving forward! Hooah!

Here’s the standard, do what you say your going to do and if you can’t, or you are not qualified, or it’s too hard, or you just don’t want to do it, then tell me from the start. We have lost this sense of professionalism somewhere.

The foundation of trust in a professional service has to be the keystone in being a Warrior, Winner, Leader & Survivor.

Trust your instincts! HOOAH!

Performance Coach & Lead Consultant
Elite Leadership Training LLC

Twitter: Leadership_Trng

*This is NOT an attack on Doctors or Lawyers; my family has four medical professionals in it & I have several great people of character that are attorneys. This point can be made about a home builder, electrician, driver or anyone offering professional services. The point being made is understood that doctors & lawyers are some of the upper echelon of educated professionals.

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